Wether or not we like to admit it, we all have builds in our intensity that create personal pressure points.

This week we will explore social interactions that have fell short and felt uncomfortable. I like to call those SPLATS. SPLATS are one type of emotional activator that can create a chain reaction in our pressure builds.

We will also look at what has felt good in different situations – WARM FUZZIES.

You will begin to identify and attend to your pressure points in the natural currents of grief.

As we learned before, grief can be experienced as waves, high tides and even tsunamis. We are going to continue that metaphor as we explore your intensity and grief pressure points.

We will tap into some past exercises about strengths and coping strategies to create a tool list of what helps or brings down the pressure so you can gain more perspective and a sense of control over what seems like otherwise uncontrollable reactions.

Don’t worry if you don’t have all the answers at this point… Even though it’s been some time, remember grief is a process and a part of living. You are still new to this life without your Loved One and you have so much to still learn.

Watch the video and print the handout.

Handouts: 52-30 Splats and Warm Fuzzies

Let’s dig a bit deeper…

Let’s begin to identify and attend to your pressure points in the natural currents of grief.

As we learned before, grief can be experienced as waves, high tides and even tsunamis. We are going to continue that metaphor as we explore your intensity and grief pressure points.  (Waves, High Tide & Tsunamis Handout: Emotional Intensity Worksheet waves)

Tap into some past exercises about strengths and coping strategies to create a tool list of what helps or brings down the pressure so you can gain more perspective and a sense of control over what seems like otherwise uncontrollable reactions.

The idea here is to recognize your personal intensity build.

It may seem that responses just come out of no where… like a ton of bricks! Just like playing cards… if you get to know your opponents tells you can tell your next move. Your opponent in this case is the emotion or activating event AND coinciding behaviors that send your grief into over-drive.

Don’t worry if you don’t have all the answers at this point…

Even though it’s been some time, remember grief is a process and a part of living. You are still new to this life without your Loved One and you have so much to still learn.

You can always come back to this exercise and keep adding to the categories… OR do the worksheet for a specific event or situation if you are interested in learning more about your personal responses.