“We boil at different degrees.” – Clint Eastwood
We also grief at different degrees… Yes! We do…
We have different relationships and find that some losses impact our everyday life in different ways.
Think about that… have you had a death in your life that touched you for a bit and then you went on back to your everyday living with little impact to your days? It’s okay to say yes… it’s true.
Here’s an example… I have lost 2 cousins. I love my family, though they were not part of my everyday life. There are profound moments their deaths are present in my parenting, or at moments of a sudden flood of memory. Certainly, their absence is strongly felt as I prepare for holidays. I experience grief in pieces and over time. I miss them.
Then, there are losses of people we share our daily lives. We have work to do surrounding the death, we question aspects of life, we may challenge our values or faith, we look at relationships through a new lens… This is my aunts, uncles and cousins whose lives shifted, came to a halt and they are rebuilding after the loss of my cousins.
Same people that have died. Different relationships, different connections, different grief. That grief boil is different in each of us…
How does this fit for you? Do you see that in your experience?