As we continue to experience anniversaries and special days, those clingy should, would, coulds may just be hanging around again. This is a common circle back as we are approaching the anniversary of your loss.

We are going to start asking ourselves “What’s the Evidence?” in addition to revisiting those  challenging thoughts that diminish your contribution and care for your Loved One.

Remember, you can revisit those should, would, coulds anytime they become all consuming. Your actions were true to the relationship you had with your Loved One. Some relationships are closer than others. Your energy was spent in all sorts of ways. Be honest with what was real in your living with your Loved One.

Just think here… we also spent some time talking about gratitude, forgiveness and pride. How’s that going for you? It’s important to tap into the various tools you’ve been given along the way.

If these should, would, coulds, continue to emerge, I’m wondering:

• is there something for which to forgive yourself?
• is there information you didn’t know until later? (You don’t know… until you do)
• do you hold someone, yourself, or your Loved One responsible?

Try to use your mirror work exercises to help through those sticky should, would, coulds.

Watch the video. Review your initial should, would could worksheet and complete another one if you need. Ask yourself “What’s the Evidence?”

Reflect and Journal:

Think about how the should, would and coulds have changed… have they stayed the same?  Is there a sticky one that may benefit from some further exploring?  What’s the evidence?