When we grieve, there are some days we can only function moment by moment. Some days we feel our time is not ours and we are focused on everything BUT our needs or our grief. Still other days may feel chaotic and we are in a whirlwind.

It can help to get a picture of you focus and how you are spending your valuable time and energy. A simple shift in your attention may get you back on track, regain perspective or help you move in your preferred direction.

This is another one of those activities that you can apply to any time in your life.

Watch the video and print the handout.

Handout: 52-39 Whats your focus

COPING TOOL BONUS:

You may notice some good days or good moments. You may even recognize some barriers to feeling better as you continue to live with your grief.

You may think some of these things as external, outside influences.

However, you do have choices within the situations in your life. Those options may be hard to recognize.

We’ll have you start by looking at some happiness sabotages that commonly arise. Then, we move to assessing how we want to address those things.

Here is a great book Dodging Energy Vampires by Christiane Northrup, MD to help navigate relationships with folks that impose on your energy and time and even addresses issues of coping with narcissistic folks in your life.

Start by watching the video and print the handout.

Handout: Types of Happiness Sabotage

Take a few minutes to reflect or journal:

1. Where are you spending MOST of your time and energy?
2. Where do you see an opportunity for more balance?