“Rejoice with those who rejoice; Mourn with those who mourn.”
Romans 12:15

Companioning is a tender, gracious privilege. That’s my perspective, for sure. There is nothing like sharing in the lives of others.

When we grieve, it may seem tough to rejoice. We may find it difficult to find the joy in life. We may miss our Loved One on special days as you experience the firsts, seconds, or thirds (and each one there after). Each year brings different feelings, sensations, and memories.

Sometimes, we may find ourselves in the joy of a moment and suddenly have a jolt of hurt as we ponder if we are truly ready for enjoyment within our grief. These complex responses are all normal in grief.

Mourning is quite different. We may want to be alone or we may have an expectation of how we want to outwardly express our grief.

Some folks in our lives may wonder (or if they are bold enough to ask) “what’s taking so long…” Oh my goodness, they clearly have not yet experienced a loss that has altered every fabric of their being.

We may want specific people to step up in our lives and “be there” for us. We may have people who are not good at feelings or being present with the tough parts of life. It’s not you, it’ that grief is not in their skill set.

Mourning and grief are unique to you. It’s your process, your adjustment, your time frame. Release the expectations of others and the expectations you have of others. Welcome those that are supportive and caring. You may be pleasantly surprised who is a source of companioning or are willing to extend you support.

Reflect or Journal: What does it mean to rejoice with others or mourn together in your grief?