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One of the hardest adjustments in grief is the quietness.

Quietness can be quite uncomfortable after a time of medical busyness or the chaos of a sudden loss. There may have been lots of visitors, phone calls and messages directly following the loss.

After some time, there is a stillness, a quiet that leaves you alone with your thoughts.

This is an opportunity to get reaquainted with yourself. I know that sounds optimistic… hear me out… The thoughts and feelings may be painful. There is so much to learn from those thoughts and feelings.

What is really underneath that hurt? Longing? Remembering tough times? Second guessing? What ifs? Questioning what now?

Your thoughts, wonder and whirlwind of feelings are valid. You may find this quietness deafening or welcomed.

This is an exhausting time in grief when the mind is busy and the body is still. It may not seem to others that much is happening, you are going through so much adjustment and growth.

I encourage you to listen and learn. You may just find unique memories, inner character, and new perspectives if you have the courage to sit in the quiet.

Reflect or journal: What are common themes in the thoughts that come to mind during your quiet times?